Sometimes I get an ear worm, a song that, once heard, keeps going around in my head. This also happens with quotes I’ve heard, half of one that’s been with me for a long time is in the title above.
The whole quote goes; ‘Its not about living the life you love but loving the life you live’.
I take this to mean that it’s not about striving ever harder to get what you want, it’s more about making what you already have into something you love.
Like everyone who has ever drawn breath, my life isn’t perfect, I have problems. That’s not letting anyone into a big secret, in my experience, there isn’t a soul alive who hasn’t got them. Some bigger than others and some that can be ignored but they’re there just the same.
I read a quote by a guy called Kevin Ngo, he’s a virtual reality web designer, I know nothing about web design but his quote really resonated with me. He said –
‘If you don’t make the time to work on creating the life you want, you’re eventually going to be forced to spend a LOT of time dealing with a life you don’t want’.
Slotting this advice from Kevin into loving the life I live, means doing what I can with what I have.
This month I’ve restored a G plan table, made jewellery and found vintage pieces that I like (both for my Etsy site, my friends and myself). A few of the things I’ve done are shown below.
A few years ago, I had let everything that could be considered art or craft based slip from my life. I was doing a job that wasn’t a good fit and I needed to change. I’m now less financially well off but honestly, that doesn’t matter to me because I like what I do so much more.
I still tutor A level students in Biology but that’s a student at a time and I enjoy doing it. I also love to hear about what they’re going to do next. This time of year is stressful for them, exams are looming but it’s a high energy time too.
Being in nature, in the garden, the wild, the seashore, or a park/botanic garden is something else I enjoy. This month I’ve had a deer in the garden, watched the trees blossom and visited the local botanic garden for my fixes –
I like to wear what I want, I like slow fashion. I enjoy finding things that are vintage or just second hand and sometimes upcycling them into something different.
I could actually go on for pages about what I like to do but that’s not really what this is about. It’s really about being here for a good time not a long time, even the longest human lifespan is a mere speck of time in the universe.
It’s the fact that life – as Oscar Wilde once said – is too important to be taken seriously.
It’s the fact that I love people who are positive and make me laugh and I don’t like arrogance, or people who take themselves too seriously and I like to try and enjoy the moment.
I’m sitting here wondering what made me start to write this, it’s not to give advice. Advice is there to be ignored! I don’t expect others to feel how I feel or do what I do. As I’ve got older I’ve become more and more aware that everyone thinks differently, that what is obvious to me might look very different to someone else. I’ve never felt the need to try to persuade anyone to adopt my views and I’m not doing that now.
Also, I’m aware that having said I don’t like people who take themselves too seriously, this could be seen as quite serious in tone! It’s meant lightly, an exhortation to wring every ounce of joy out of as much of every day as possible.
Whatever you are up to, wherever you are, I hope that you are able to love the life you live, and, if not there yet, to find a way to make it possible.
Have a lovely week.