Cupid and Psyche, the heart and soul of February

It’s hard to ignore the fact that the middle day of this month is marked by the madness of pink hearts and cards with, often, nauseous messages in them, that is Valentine’s Day.

You may love this day, or like many you may have had a sine wave relationship with it, i.e. very up and down, or you could just hate it as a cynical, commercial ploy.

Cupid, often depicted as the chubby cherub rules the day.

What about his wife though, Psyche, the goddess of the soul?


I think that I’m going to make this February a month of Cupid and Psyche. What after all is heart without soul?

When I was younger I was quite shy. Honestly I don’t think it showed, I worked hard to hide it. But I found a poem I wrote back in the 80’s that I’m going to share; that summed up how I coped!

The Cocktail Party

Lips stick
Words falter
Red lips
No matter
Looks round
Sees little
Feels scared
Talk’s brittle

Weather, or not
To drink
A sip
Tongue tied
Hors d’oeuvres
Fickle pickle

The door recedes
The faces merge
Words fall
A surge
A blush to purge

Champagne or vodka
Is gin the tonic?
Glass in hand
“Hello, oh yes, the hostess
You do? Me too,
I’m glad”
Small talk
Tall talk
Up against the wall talk

Someone left
How rude to be first
A few more gins
To quench a thirst
Numbers dwindle
Time to leave
“Yes lovely, thank you
How successful”
Then outside to breathe

Thankfully, now I’m older I no longer feel like this but I remember it well! It’s only as I’ve got older that I’ve learnt that you don’t actually need to have validation from outside to feel good.

I think that self esteem and compassion are vital and for me the perfect focus for February.

So for an alternative view of the Valentine’s month, I’m using carnelian instead of red stones in my jewellery making:

Carnelian, for self esteem


I’ve already started with these;


Lovely carnelian, with it’s beautiful, translucent colours, which vary from a pale pink/orange, through to deep rust via amber oranges. A perfect stone for February.

Instead of statement bouquets of red roses, I’m watching my little basil seedlings grow, it makes me happy to see them!


And of course, to recognise Psyche as being just as important as Cupid, some soul music, to dance around to, as is my habit!

A couple of favourites of mine; the northern soul song Little Darling by The Flirtations and Young Gifted and Black by Bob and Marcia.

Whether you favour Cupid, Psyche, or a bit of both, I hope you have a wonderful month this February.













6 Comments Add yours

  1. Ann says:

    What a lovely post, Sally, and your wonderful poem resonates with me, as it kind of sums up how I felt too. I still feel that way sometimes … I’m not into Valentine’s Day at all, as I think it’s just fake, but I’m all for a cocktail of Cupid and Psyche. I have to confess that I hadn’t heard of carnelian, but the colour is lovely, and the earrings are very you! xxx

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    1. Thank you Ann, I’m so pleased you got my poem! I must admit if I have to go into a room full of people I don’t know very well it can still be tongue tying.
      I think Cupid and and Psyche cocktail sounds wonderful 😉


  2. I get where you are coming from. One of the pluses I saw when Michael wanted to move to the country was that I could be away from people. That could also just be antisocial too but I’ve work on that too. Michael & I haven’t ever been to big on Valentine’s Day-just a card works for us. I always enjoy when the V-Day chocolates go on sale though 😉

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  3. I could definitely live in the country, it sounds like bliss. I totally understand how you feel! I sometimes need to push myself to be social but I usually enjoy it when I do.
    The chocolates idea sounds tempting 🙂


  4. Hi Sally, definitely falling on the side of cynical marketing ploy over here but then again I have only ever had one Valentine’s Day card and that was from my mate. We sent each other them just so we got one. 🙂 I love your earrings. They are so warm and glowing. Do you know your poem was very nostalgic for me too. Reminded me of parties when I was at school. I would end up in the kitchen talking to people’s parents, and on one memorable occasion their granny. Basil is lovely. I hope that it is doing well now that the days are getting brighter. Xx

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  5. Thank you Kelly, I love carnelian too, it’s a beautiful colour.
    I’m on the side of the cynical marketing ploy too!!
    The basil is growing well, we’ve had a bit of sunshine lately. Today it’s snowing again though, at least it’s not settling. xxx


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