It’s hard to ignore the fact that the middle day of this month is marked by the madness of pink hearts and cards with, often, nauseous messages in them, that is Valentine’s Day.
You may love this day, or like many you may have had a sine wave relationship with it, i.e. very up and down, or you could just hate it as a cynical, commercial ploy.
Cupid, often depicted as the chubby cherub rules the day.
What about his wife though, Psyche, the goddess of the soul?
I think that I’m going to make this February a month of Cupid and Psyche. What after all is heart without soul?
When I was younger I was quite shy. Honestly I don’t think it showed, I worked hard to hide it. But I found a poem I wrote back in the 80’s that I’m going to share; that summed up how I coped!
The Cocktail Party
Weather, or not
The door recedes
The faces merge
A blush to purge
Champagne or vodka
Is gin the tonic?
Glass in hand
“Hello, oh yes, the hostess
You do? Me too,
Up against the wall talk
How rude to be first
A few more gins
To quench a thirst
Time to leave
“Yes lovely, thank you
Then outside to breathe
Thankfully, now I’m older I no longer feel like this but I remember it well! It’s only as I’ve got older that I’ve learnt that you don’t actually need to have validation from outside to feel good.
I think that self esteem and compassion are vital and for me the perfect focus for February.
So for an alternative view of the Valentine’s month, I’m using carnelian instead of red stones in my jewellery making:
I’ve already started with these;
Lovely carnelian, with it’s beautiful, translucent colours, which vary from a pale pink/orange, through to deep rust via amber oranges. A perfect stone for February.
Instead of statement bouquets of red roses, I’m watching my little basil seedlings grow, it makes me happy to see them!
And of course, to recognise Psyche as being just as important as Cupid, some soul music, to dance around to, as is my habit!
A couple of favourites of mine; the northern soul song Little Darling by The Flirtations and Young Gifted and Black by Bob and Marcia.
Whether you favour Cupid, Psyche, or a bit of both, I hope you have a wonderful month this February.